A MENS GROUP STARTED BY A
MARINE & a Screenwriter
A PRIVATE COMMUNITY DESIGNED TO SIMPLIFY, GAMIFY, AND CODIFY PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.
The Merit-Based Man is a modern-day rite of passage
designed to help men reclaim their story, break old patterns, sharpen their edge, and build lives of purpose, integrity, and impact
whilst having fun!
(Yeah, we used words like “whilst”)
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”
— African Proverb
WE help MEN shift FROM A transactional mindset to relational living, BECOMING MORE PROCESS BASED than OUTCOME driven.
WE HELP RELUCTANT LEADERS Step into their power and lead with purpose.
CALL TO ACTION:
BRIDGE THE GAP
In 2025, one of our wives joined a mastermind group with 6 other married women.
5 of them were contemplating divorce because their husbands refused to do ANY personal development.
How did modern technology unlock and organize women, and destroy and isolate men?
How can we Bridge This Gap?
At MBM, we believe most personal development is not meeting men where they are.
Therapy is expensive and many of us won’t ask for help until it’s too late.
We saw the need for a different framework to kickstart or facilitate our personal development journeys, so we created this community to Bring more resources to more men and have more fun!
Too many of us are secretly sad, overweight, isolated, addicted and getting our dicks kicked in the dirt by our significant others. Time for men to regroup and rebuild around new support structures.
We must resist the siren song of comfort, complacency, and conformity. Together, we’ll simplify, gamify and codify a healthy version of modern masculinity, striking a balance between old wisdom and new tactics.
MBM is creating an armory of practical tools to help navigate your life. We offer live weekly calls, self-paced courses, facilitated courses, group challenges, 1:1 coaching, podcast episodes, guest speakers, articles, newsletter, and more!
What’s included?
At it’s core, MBM is a third space for men to discuss and crowd-source new ways to improve. We’re not gurus or experts in any of these personal development Fields. We’re more like cartographers for change. “This map and these steps helped me stop drinking. It might work for you. Give it a shot and report back.”
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A curated group of peers to hold you accountable.
Live discussions on difficult subjects.
Discount on coaching offers.
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Emotional Intelligence is the final frontier for men to explore. We offer weekly posts, articles, discussions and videos on this topic. We also read a ton of books in this space and offer abbreviated summaries in basic manspeak.
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We’ll eventually offer live group courses, but we have 4 self-paced courses coming out 2025 to 2026.
Break Your Life - How to Rewrite Your Life Story and Step into Power
The Mosaic Method - How to Create an Experiential Map of Your Life
The Friendship Audit - How to Organize a Human Network That Fosters Growth
Emotional Self Defense - Join The Emo Dojo and Learn How to Defend Yourself Verbally
WEEKLY MEN’S GROUP
Men’s group meet-ups on Tuesday afternoons and Friday mornings. We workshop life problems and strategies like a council of advisors.
Explore the ARmory
The Armory is a database of tools to help men navigate everything from relationships to digital discipline. Peer-sourced articles that offer clever solutions to common problems.
GROUP CHALLENGES
We all have areas where we need to change and it takes a month or more to make those changes stick. We encourage our members to design group challenges and invite others to join them.
WHAT TO EXPECT
Strengthened Integrity: Align your actions with your core values, building unshakable self-respect and trust from others.
Resilient Mindset: Develop the capacity to face adversity with grit, courage, and adaptability instead of avoidance or defeat.
Heightened Emotional Intelligence: Gain deeper self-awareness and emotional mastery, leading to healthier communication and relationships.
Purpose-Driven Living: Clarify your mission in life and make decisions anchored in long-term meaning rather than short-term comfort.
Earned Confidence: Cultivate genuine, lasting self-belief through discipline, accountability, and real achievement instead of surface-level bravado.
Leadership From Within: Naturally embody leadership, influencing others through example rather than control, ego, or external validation.
Brotherhood and Authentic Connection: Foster deep, supportive bonds with other men rooted in mutual respect and shared growth, not competition.
Freedom Through Accountability: BY owning your choices and actions fully, experience personal freedom instead of being trapped in blame or victimhood.
Mastery of Presence: Learn to live and lead in the present moment, making clearer, stronger decisions without being hijacked by fear, regret, or impulse.
Legacy-Focused Action: Design your life with the future in mind, acting daily in ways that build a meaningful legacy for you and those you care about.
STOP PLAYING GAMES YOU CAN’T WIN
Many modern men have a low sense of self worth because other groups & ideologies have been allowed to dictate the conversation around what it means to be a “good man”.
We started defining ourselves by others’ values, not our own merit, and got tricked into playing an unwinnable game. the rules of which need to be clarified and simplified.
That’s what we do. We Go back to the basics to become more self-reliant by learning new skills with and from our peers.
we’re not talking Boy Scout survival skills. We mean emotional Martial arts, interpersonal bond forging, and mindset mastery tools to add to your Batman belt.
Upcoming events
FAQs
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We stand for radical honesty over performative masculinity – because real growth starts where the mask comes off.
We believe emotional depth is strength – vulnerability isn’t weakness; it’s the foundation of true leadership.
We know no man thrives alone – connection and brotherhood aren’t extras; they’re essential fuel for becoming who you're meant to be.
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There’s no cover at the door for our first 50 founding members. Once those seats are taken, we will initiate a very reasonable monthly subscription.
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It’s true, there are many different types of men’s groups to choose from, and we champion a number of our brothers out there doing a great service. Here at MBM, we are focused on the pillars of simplifying, gamifying, and codifying personal development. We want to learn together, grow together, and have fun doing it!
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It’s completely up to you. While we certainly encourage openness and sharing, we understand everyone has a different comfort level with being vulnerable. The process of opening up more as time goes on is a powerful gauge of personal progress. Whether you want to join as an observer or jump right into the fire, there’s a place for you here at MBM.
